Ungratefulness
I didn’t really intend to write anything more about Tobias here unless something really happens, like if I was in contact with him again in some way, but I’m kinda upset now and feel the need to bash him just a bit more.
So, Tobias and his friend Daniel have been working on a script for a movie since uh, I dunno how long, but I was sent a copy of it more than a year ago, so let’s just say ages. Back then Tobias also offered me to play a female character in the movie, and it was kinda settled. Now with stuff happening, I didn’t know if they’d still want me as it might be a bit awkward and Tobias is a big drama queen, so I sent Daniel a message yesterday asking when they’d start filming and telling him that I’d still do my part if Tobias didn’t object. Apparently, they’ve already rewritten the script and started filming, as “Tobias opinion hasn’t changed”. Gee, thanks for letting me know. Also special thanks go out to Tobias for robbing me of the only thing I had planned at all for this summer.
I had a hard time not responding with a rant, but I decided to just let it out here instead. Tobias’ behaviour is a laugh. Really, it is. I still can’t believe he has the nerve to call me “mean and respectless”, after all I’ve done for him and all he’s put me through. I know I’m an annoying person at times. I know I love teasing people. But when it comes to the stuff that really should matter, I’ve been there 100%. I helped him break loose from his ex girlfriend (he was thanking me for months after that). I let him use my e-mail when he was concerned about something very private and wanted to seek help online, but didn’t dare use his own e-mail as it contained his first name. I offered him to stay at my house for the first couple of months he’d be living in Stockholm, since he probably wouldn’t have his own apartment yet. I’ve always been there to listen to his long, long rants about the same stuff. Sometimes I kinda snapped at them when they were just ridiculous, I’ll admit, but 90% of the time I was supportive. After he’d broken up with me last summer/autumn, telling me that I was “trash that he needed to throw away to go on with his life”, I was STILL there when he came crawling back. I was still there, and just the same as before. I tried to understand him. I tried to encourage him to seek help, as he knew himself that he should. When I didn’t talk to him for longer periods I texted him asking if he was fine and reminding him that I was there if he wanted to talk, and usually got a bit of a rant back, which was fine.
I would absolutely love to have someone who did all this for me, I’d be forever grateful. Tobias on the other hand just calmly explained to me that he wasn’t grateful for anything I did, and never would be. I suppose that was nothing but the truth.